Episode 10: Gender Identity

Stories told by Jo and Jacob with Perspective by Carole Clements.

Gender Identity

“I certainly did not choose to feel that my gender did not match what was assigned to me.”

Jacob was four years into his transition when he and Jo met, and fairly new to being read as male. Jo had been out as a queer woman. Their story of courtship, marriage and family has the commonalities of what many consider a typical relationship. But underneath it all are layers of insecurity, apprehension and distress.

In the second half of the show, Andy talks with Carole Clements, a professor and practitioner of contemplative psychology. They discuss the evolving vocabulary and terms regarding gender and identity.

Additional Resources: 

Hear more from Carole Clements with our Bonus Segment of her talk with Host Andy Horning.

Read more about Carole Clements and her work at Naropa University.


What Happens When You Find the One…And He’s Nothing—Nothing—Like You Expected?

“Trans men confirm everything you thought about sexism but couldn’t prove” 

Mapping Transgender Equality in the United States

Beyond ‘He’ or ‘She’: The Changing Meaning of Gender and Sexuality

Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender Expansive.

“Love No Matter What” Andrew Solomon, TED Talk


Ma Vie en Rose (1997)

Tomboy (2011)

Red Without Blue (2007) Documentary


Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity by Andrew Solomon

I Am J by Cris Beam. A powerful and inspiring story about a transgender teen’s struggle to find his own path — and love his true self.

Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits by Loren Cameron (1996)

Gender outlaw:  On men, women, and the rest of us. by Kate Bornstein (2016)

Gender trouble:  Feminism and the subversion of identity. by Judith Butler (1990)

Brainstorm:  The flaws in the science of sex differences. by Rebecca Jordan-Young (2010)

Transgender history. by Susan Stryker (2008)



Family Equality Council 



Trans People of Color Coalition (TPOCC)  

Transgender Advocacy Network 

Transgender American Veterans Association 

Trans Lifeline 

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